As nerve-wracking as it is, we all know that nowadays scoring the first date is not the hardest part anymore — it’s getting a second one. We all struggle to leave a good impression that will make our dates call us back.
Some of us go for a fancy dinner matched with a fancy car, while others opt for a usual day-out. It really depends on what interests you both.
However, no matter how much you want to make the first date spectacular, it is important to remember that there’s always a fine line between making an effort and trying too hard.
Here are some tips on how to make your first date memorable without coming off as too into it.
Of course, it is very important that you bring your date to a nice place. It does not need to be over-the-top, but it has to be impressive and unique. If you have been talking for a while before getting on the first date, it’s a must to include her interests in your itinerary.
Does she like coffee? Is she into comedy movies? Do you remember her favorite food?
The location you choose must have a casual environment. The last thing you’d want to do is to burden your date with activities that could make them feel uncomfortable. To be on the safe side, do not choose loud and crowded places like clubs or bars.
Chill is always a good theme for a first date.
The type of conversation you have can make or break your first date. For a lot of people, the first date is the best time for two people to have a real conversation. This is also an opportunity to establish a rapport and build a connection.
You can kick off the conversation by recalling how you two met. Whether it was at a dating party, a speed dating event, or an online dating site such as eHarmony or Match, talking about how funny your first meeting was could set a light tone for the rest of the conversation. If you met through online dating sites, it could also be fun to discuss what you think made you two match.
From there, you can gradually ask questions about their hobbies, career and personal life. Be careful not to overdo it though. Nobody wants to be interrogated by personal questions on the first date.
As you go through the rest of the night, you have to be observant of your date’s body language. Trust your intuition. If you sense that your date is uncomfortable with a certain topic or activity, try to change it immediately.
You must also watch out for signs of interest. Perking up or leaning closer to you as you speak can be a sign of engagement. Try to talk about that topic more.
Setting the right pace means being in tune with your partner’s pace. Take it slowly if you must, or speed it up a bit when the situation calls for it. Presence of mind during these times can surely go a long way.
If you fail to match your partner’s pace, you will not be able to build a strong connection with them. The whole date can turn into a battle of push and pull. If this happens, you can expect that your date for tonight will be the first… and the last.
Finding love in a fast-paced world can be a grueling, albeit thrilling process. Dates can be arranged with a few taps on your phone. Relationships can be formed at the speed of light. Although it can be scary for a lot of singles out there, putting yourself out there on the dating scene (multiple times!) is always going to be a part of the process.
It’s a good thing that today, multiple platforms are available to find potential partners. You can simply attend dating parties, create a profile on dating sites like Zoosk, Our Time or Elite Singles, or just connect with people through social media! Really, it’s that easy.
But the real challenge begins on meeting up for the first date. There is no exact formula for making a first date work. As mentioned, all you need to do is foster an organic conversation at the right place, and go at the right pace. Everything else will follow.